A gentle month, for the two of us.
Twelve seasons, one for each month, each one written for us together.
January
January, Beginning Again
A soft restart for us, no resolutions, just presence.
January doesn't have to be big. This month we begin again quietly, one small ritual, one honest conversation at a time.
Sit together on the first quiet evening of the month and each say one word for how we want to enter this year, together.
- •The way I want us to begin again this year is...
- •One small thing I hope we protect this year is...
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February
February, Loving Through Loss
Choosing each other again in the tender month.
Love after loss doesn't look like it used to. This month we let our love be quieter, slower, and just as real.
One night this month, no phones, one shared meal, and one sentence each, one thing I still love about you is...
- •The way we love each other now is different because...
- •One thing I still choose about you is...
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March
March, Gentle Hope
Letting a small hope in, without forcing it.
Hope after loss is fragile. This month we let ourselves name one small hope out loud to each other, without pressure to believe it fully.
Trade one line this week, one small hope I'm carrying is..., and receive each other's without responding, just holding it.
- •A hope I'm afraid to say out loud is...
- •A hope I want us to hold together is...
Open March →
April
April, Holding Hands
Small physical closeness, on purpose.
Sometimes touch says what words can't. This month we return to small physical closeness, held hands, a hand on the back, a longer hug, on purpose.
Hold hands for one full minute once a day. That is the whole practice.
- •The kind of touch I most need from you right now is...
- •A small closeness I miss is...
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May
May, Mother's Day Together
Holding her heart on a day the world makes loud.
Mother's Day can ache for both of us. This month we make a plan together, ahead of time, so she is never alone in it.
Two weeks before the day, sit together and decide, what would feel gentle, what would feel hard, what do we say yes and no to this year.
- •What I need from you on Mother's Day is...
- •The way I want us to honor our baby that day is...
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June
June, Father's Day Together
Holding his heart on a day that often forgets him.
Father's Day after loss is often invisible. This month we name it out loud, together, and honor his fatherhood on purpose.
The night before Father's Day, tell him one specific way he is our baby's father, out loud.
- •What I want him to know about his fatherhood is...
- •What I need from us on Father's Day is...
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July
July, Small Joys
Letting laughter be allowed again.
Joy after loss can feel like betrayal. This month we let small joys count, a laugh, a good meal, a warm evening, without guilt.
Each night, name one small joy you noticed today. Just one. Say it out loud to each other.
- •A small joy I let myself feel this week was...
- •A joy I want to give myself permission for is...
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August
August, Quiet Growth
Noticing what has grown between us since loss.
Growth after loss is quiet. This month we look at us, and name the tenderness, the patience, the closeness that has grown, even in the ache.
Sit together and each finish this sentence out loud, something that has grown between us since we lost our baby is...
- •A way our love has grown quieter and deeper is...
- •Something I love about who we are becoming is...
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September · This month
September, Remembering Together
Making space for our baby, on purpose.
This month we make one intentional act of remembrance, together. Not because we have to, because our baby is worth it.
Choose one small ritual this month, light a candle, visit a place, plant something, write a letter, and do it together.
- •A way I want us to remember our baby this month is...
- •Something I want our baby to know is...
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October
October, Wave of Light
Standing in the light for our baby, together.
October 15 is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Whether we mark it big or small, this month we let our baby be seen, together.
On October 15 at 7 pm, light one candle together for one hour. Sit near it. Say our baby's name.
- •What I want the world to know about our baby is...
- •A way this month felt held, or hard, was...
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November
November, Gratitude & Grief
Both can live in the same room.
This month can bring pressure to feel thankful. We let gratitude and grief sit at the same table, no forcing either.
Trade one gratitude and one grief out loud before a meal this month. Both count. Both are welcome.
- •A gratitude I'm holding is...
- •A grief I'm still carrying is...
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December
December, Holding Each Other Through the Holidays
Smaller, slower, together.
The holidays can be bright and aching at the same time. This month we do less, leave early, say no, and make new rituals that fit who we are now.
Before the month gets loud, sit together and choose one holiday yes, one holiday no, and one remembrance gesture for our baby. Write them down.
- •This season, our yes can be...
- •This season, our no can be...
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